BYU-Idaho Education Week 2017 Presentation

Here is the link to the slideshow I used at the BYU-Idaho Education Week presentation, 2017.

“Breaking the Chains of Worry and Anxiety: Lessons from Liberty Jail and Mindfulness Therapies” is available at the BYU-Idaho University Store and on Amazon.

Is there a better way than – “Take this for 6 weeks and you’ll start to feel better?” Edit article

I personally deal with anxiety, compounded by a moderate case of OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder). At times this has even lead to seasons of depression. When I have been down I have desperately sought for relief. Usually hoping for some quick fix solution. Like many, when I turned to the medical profession I was a bit put-off by, this pill “may” help and you should notice a difference in around 6 weeks. “Six weeks! I want to feel better now! In my impatience, I spent a lot of time researching all sorts of remedies, looking for an “easy button.” I tried everything from acupuncture to yoga, with dozens of things in between. Happily, I discovered Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT) and have enjoyed much relief, bordering on complete healing. In fact, I have become such a fan of ACT, I even wrote a book on the topic.

The acronym ACT not only represents the name of this therapy, but also the three steps involved in this practice. These are:

A = Accept thoughts and feelings

C = Connect with your values

T = Take action (on a value)

I have found great usefulness in each of these steps. For example, learning to accept and just “be with” moments of discomfort and even fear brings great peace. There is also much wisdom in taking the time to discover your life’s purpose the supporting values. Finally, taking action, especially when each purposeful act is connected to a value.

As I have practiced ACT and taught these principles to others, I believe the real healing is in the third step – “take action.” In my recent studies, I have come across several quotes that support the value of taking action:

In the “Greatest Salesman in the World” Og Mandino said:

“Weak is he who permits his thoughts to control his actions; strong is he who forces his actions to control his thoughts.”

In the book “Failing Forward” John C. Maxwell encourages us to:

“Don’t wait until you feel positive to move forward. Act your way into feeling good. That’s the only way to feel more positively about yourself.” And, “You can’t avoid fear. No magic potion will take it away. And you can’t wait for motivation to get you going. To conquer fear, you have to feel the fear and take action anyway.”

Supporting the value of action, John Sternin said:

“It’s easier to act your way into a new way of thinking, than think your way into a new way of acting.”

Finally, Jerome Bruner states:

“You’re more likely to act yourself into feeling than feel yourself into action.”

For example, after a recent Monday at work, I returned home feeling quite discouraged. Oddly, I couldn’t really pinpoint the reason for may angst. My first inclination was to isolate myself and watch another episode (or perhaps more than one) of my favorite series on Netflix. Yet, I knew that after the momentary distraction, I would come out on the other side with the same gloomy feelings, perhaps even with a dose of quilt. At that moment, my two youngest children came bounding into the room and I was reminded that a better choice would be to take action, to act on two of the things I value most, my children. I quickly asked them, “how would you like to go up to the college and go swimming?” Of course, the exuberant answer was YES! And off we went. Did I immediately feel better? No, not at first. But it didn’t take long until all of us where lost in our happy play at the pool and my mood was lifted, and not just for a moment. I experienced first-hand actions controlling thoughts and acting my way into feeling good.

So, when you are feeling down or discouraged, think of a value and act! It really is a better way to live than turning inward, indulging in mind numbing distractions, or taking a pill and impatiently waiting weeks to feel better.

Disclaimer: This article does not imply that some people won’t benefit from psychological medicine or other therapies.

Fireside in Eagle Mountain, Utah

This event has been POSTPONED to Jan 29, 2017.  Stay tuned for more details.
fireside-flyer-october-20161I am very honored to  have been invited to speak at a fireside in Eagle Mountain, Utah on October 16 at 6:30 pm.  The topic is Breaking the Chains of Worry and Anxiety: Lessons from Liberty Jail. The ward that is hosting the fireside has indicated others are welcome.

The location is: 4506 East Pony Express Parkway, Eagle Mountain, UT.

E+R=O

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(Photo by Rich Schultz /Getty Images)

I just finished reading a compelling article about Ohio State University football coach Urban Meyer, which describes his journey in  beating obsessive anxiety.  His key to healing, a simple process called E+R=O, which stands for Event + Response = Outcome. This system, designed by Tim Kight states:

“The only thing anyone can control in any situation is the R Factor. You can’t control what happens to you and you can’t control what happens next, but you can control your response.”

This simple process was the key to Urban’s healing and is vey similar to the STA2R practice outlined in my book “Breaking the Chains of Worry and Anxiety.” 

This practice is based on the mindfulness steps of living in the moment and acceptance. The steps are:

  1. Stop and recognize unpleasant thoughts (worries) and feelings (anxiety).
  2. Take a deep breath, beginning with one deep breath followed by another.
  3. Accept things as they are, including thoughts and feelings, with caring, curiosity, and understanding.
  4. Ask yourself what you really want, taking into consideration your values.
  5. React in a positive way in alignment with your values and true to your vision

This practice is illustrated below:

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As Kight said, E+R= O and I would argue STA2R really “is Mental Health 101.”

 

BYU-Idaho Education Week Presentation

EDWeekpic3I had the great privilege of presenting “Breaking the Chains of Worry and Anxiety” at the BYU-Idaho Education Week.  I have created a slideshare of my presentation which you can view or download at http://www.slideshare.net/byuiforever/breaking-the-chains-of-worry-and-anxiety.  I have also been invited to speak at a fireside later in the year in Salt Lake City, Utah.  I am very open to speaking on this topic to either youth or adult groups.  If you are interested please contact me at daviss@byui.edu.

For more information about ordering the book please click on the following links:

 

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“My husband and I have have been reading this book together. We have multiple children with disabilities and now I have become physically disabled as well. This book has given us many good ideas and is already a blessing in our live’s! In addition, I have shared parts of it with a family member who is struggling and it has blessed them as well. I am so grateful for this book and the insightful inspirations that it gives. I would encourage everyone to read this, because if you don’t have worries, I bet somebody close to you does.”

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